We Need Balance

So often in life we want to be super aggressive or super kind and we justify it by going to the extreme. We say I’m just fierce all the time or I’m always a push over. What we need is balance.

The king’s wrath is as the roaring of a lion; but his favour is as dew upon the grass.–Proverbs 19:12

Balance. . . the middle way, whatever you want to call it, is hard to achieve. At work many times when we are looking to hire someone, we want someone with all the skills that are needed to perform the job. We want that well-balanced person. In reality that is hard to find.

There are times that we need to be fierce and strong as a roaring lion. Other times we need to be refreshing like the morning dew. What happens many times is that we start becoming more of the one and less of the other. We then start justifying it as a badge of honor that we are on the extreme of the attitude or character.

We see this a lot in politics. We become one sided, we start to then let some of our beliefs go because we are part of a certain party, until we become on the extreme of that party. As a boss there are times I have to be firm and not be the nice guy everyone likes. There are other times taking a softer, gentler approach works much better. If I’m too much of one, I become a push over that doesn’t hold people accountable, while if I’m too much firmness then nobody wants to work under me.

We seem to be in a world of polarization. Where we have to be on one side or the other. We need to take more of a balanced approach in life. We need to have a good mix of balance in our lives. Work balance is a buzz word nowadays in the workplace. It’s true, you have to have a good work balance. If you’re working too much your personal life suffers which then makes your job performance suffer. Not enough work and we become lazy and can’t provide for our families.

We see balance in our diets. Too much of one thing can wreck our diets and our waistlines. There are so many other places in our lives where if one thing gets out of whack, then everything gets out of whack. How we treat people, how we deal with work and play, how we eat, etc all need balance. If we feel like we’re getting to the extreme, then we probably need to look at ourselves and ask, what needs balanced?

Time

There is no more precious commodity here on Earth than time. Time is more valuable than gold, platinum or silver. It’s more valuable than all the money in the world. Why is time so valuable? It’s limited. What makes it even more valuable, is the fact that we don’t know how much we really have. The average person in the Western World lives around 79 years of age. As we all know, some die within days or months of being born and some live into their 100’s. At any moment we don’t know if we only have a few seconds or years left on our life. People that are in the prime of their life, die of a heart attack and everyone is shocked. Car wrecks, other accidents, and illnesses can all bring an end to our time.

On average we spend the following time doing these items:

  • Sleeping 33 years
  • Working 13 years and 2 months
  • Screen time (tv and social media) 11 years 4 months
  • Eating 4 years 6 months
  • Vacationing 3 years
  • Exercise 1 year 4 months
  • Socializing 2 years 1 month

So that list comes out to about 68.5 years, meaning if we live on average 79 years, we have 10.5 years to do with what we want. We start discussing some of the other things we do in a day, like brushing our teeth, going to the bathroom, and doing chores; that 10.5 years has dwindled down even more. Ten years is not much time, roughly 13% of our life we have the ability to determine what we will do with it.

The thing is, many people want your time. They want a share of that 10 years you have. Why do we freely give away our time?

So I’m going to take this in a completely different direction than expected. I want to personally thank, this Memorial Day (United States holiday), the families of the men and women that gave up some of their time, to serve in the armed forces and gave the ultimate sacrifice. . . their life. Although serving in the military is job, there is that key aspect that those individuals that gave the ultimate sacrifice, put themselves in a situation to protect our country and have no more time.

Many of us, would not put ourselves in a situation where we lose time, where we lose years off our life (not intentionally anyways). These men and women did. For that I thank you, so that I can live in a country with so many freedoms. We have our problems, but I don’t have to worry about discussing Jesus, I don’t have to fear all the time that something is going to happen to my family. I’m free to chose my career and who I want to be.

Again, thank you to the families of those that have given the ultimate sacrifice.

Thursday Thoughts: Value of Life

I was driving on my lunch break and it crossed my mind how different the world would be if we valued life more or taught the next generation to value life more.

We talk about how gun violence gets worse and worse. Abortion is a huge headline lately in the news. The past few years bullying has been reported on heavily. There have been many conversations about what is right and wrong, what should be done to correct these issues, and what is in store for our future if we do nothing.

What I want to ask is, how much of this would change if we valued life more? We forget that we are made in the image of God. That should me a lot to us. We have attributes that are the same as the One that made the heavens and the Earth. In the Bible nothing else is stated as being made in the image of God. Humans are different in that aspect. For that very reason we should value life greatly. Life is so precious! As a biochemist, it amazes me how delicate life can be? A little bit of a chemical imbalance here or there and our life is done.

If we taught our children to value everyone’s life more would we have the issues with racism? Would we have the murder rates we have now? Would we have the issues with abortion? Would there be less bullying?

Just thoughts I had while driving. We try to legislate all of these issues, but if we taught the next generations to value life, would that change things more?

Are You Thankful For Today?

No verse today, but are you thankful for today? Not, are you thankful for what is in your life. Are you thankful for today? Are you thankful for the time you have today? The fact that you were able to get up, breathing, and putting two feet on the ground. So many times we get caught up in the hustle and bustle of everyday life and forget what a precious gift life is.

We forget how fortunate we are to have life. What we are able to take in. The sunrises and sunsets, the feel of the wind as it goes across our skin, the sun warming our skin, the smell of grass, etc. There is so much beauty in nature. It is so good to get out in nature and experience life. To take in a full breath.

Have you thought about how precious your life is? How much God loves you? Sometimes, we need to stop and take a few moments to realize how precious our life is.

and experience life.

Split Second

Boast not thyself of to morrow; for thou knowest not what a day may bring forth. Proverbs 27:1

I’m a planner, I have my life planned out and in my mind I know how it’s going to go. Reality is that I have no clue what is going to happen in 10 years, a year, a month, a week, a day, an hour, or even a few seconds from now. Although we should plan for the future, we should not be consumed by it. As stated in Proverbs 27:1 says, we do not know what will happen tomorrow.

Whereas ye know not what shall be on the morrow: for what is your life? It is even a vopour, that appeareth for a little time, and then vanisheth away. James 4:14

Our life is nothing but vapor in the general scheme of things. We see vapor as we’re boiling water. It rises from the pot and then within a few seconds vanishes into the air not to be noticed anymore. So what does this mean in regards to our life?

Just like the vapor vanishes into the air, so will our legacy. Yes, there will be some people that are remembered in history, but most of us, after a couple of generations nobody will remember who we are. How much we have obtained (see http://manofproverbs.com/raining-money-doesnt-grow-a-great-life/) over the years. The old saying you can’t take it with you is true, in fact, it is more like they’re going to take it from you

Live now! We all have regrets in life. I wish I would have tried harder in college, I wish I would have been more outgoing and involved, but at times I was afraid or I was too busy saying I have time. Now that I’m 10+ years out of college, I’m starting to realize that time is soooooo valuable and most my fears were trivial. I think about all the time I wasted, doing absolutely nothing.

Our vapor of a life is only a few set years here on earth. Some of us may only have a couple of years, some of us may have 100 years, but we don’t know. Time is so precious, it’s more precious than money, silver, or gold. We need to make what we do count. Quit wasting time with people that don’t care for you. Stop wasting time not accomplishing something. This is why I’m not a fan of video games, it drains hours of time from you when you only meant to play for a few minutes. I haven’t played video games for 5+ years and I don’t miss it. I’ve accomplished so much more with that time. Build your relationships, build your marriage, spend time with your kids, help with your community . . .do something productive.

Tomorrow may not be the same. We could easily end up in an accident that limits our abilities. . . what regrets would you have?