We Need Balance

So often in life we want to be super aggressive or super kind and we justify it by going to the extreme. We say I’m just fierce all the time or I’m always a push over. What we need is balance.

The king’s wrath is as the roaring of a lion; but his favour is as dew upon the grass.–Proverbs 19:12

Balance. . . the middle way, whatever you want to call it, is hard to achieve. At work many times when we are looking to hire someone, we want someone with all the skills that are needed to perform the job. We want that well-balanced person. In reality that is hard to find.

There are times that we need to be fierce and strong as a roaring lion. Other times we need to be refreshing like the morning dew. What happens many times is that we start becoming more of the one and less of the other. We then start justifying it as a badge of honor that we are on the extreme of the attitude or character.

We see this a lot in politics. We become one sided, we start to then let some of our beliefs go because we are part of a certain party, until we become on the extreme of that party. As a boss there are times I have to be firm and not be the nice guy everyone likes. There are other times taking a softer, gentler approach works much better. If I’m too much of one, I become a push over that doesn’t hold people accountable, while if I’m too much firmness then nobody wants to work under me.

We seem to be in a world of polarization. Where we have to be on one side or the other. We need to take more of a balanced approach in life. We need to have a good mix of balance in our lives. Work balance is a buzz word nowadays in the workplace. It’s true, you have to have a good work balance. If you’re working too much your personal life suffers which then makes your job performance suffer. Not enough work and we become lazy and can’t provide for our families.

We see balance in our diets. Too much of one thing can wreck our diets and our waistlines. There are so many other places in our lives where if one thing gets out of whack, then everything gets out of whack. How we treat people, how we deal with work and play, how we eat, etc all need balance. If we feel like we’re getting to the extreme, then we probably need to look at ourselves and ask, what needs balanced?

Balancing Act

Remove far from me vanity and lies: give me neither poverty nor riches; feed me with food convenient for me –Proverbs 30:8

In Matthew 6:11 it says, “Give us this our daily bread.” This is representative of our need to have basic provisions. We should always pray to have enough income to meet personal and family needs, to further God’s work, and to give to those in need

In a previous post, “Raining Money Doesn’t Grow a Great Life” I discussed how many times we get caught up in making money and working ourselves to death, and we lose out on time with God, family, and friends. We lose our balance in life. Being at the extremes of money, i.e poverty or rich, tends to make people focused on money. It becomes a god to them.

God wants us to be building relationships, not tirelessly working. In Ecclesiastes 3: 1-8, God says there is a time for everything. There is a very delicate balance in life. Look at our own bodies, there are compounds, say potassium, that are needed for the everyday function of our lives. Potassium is vital in how our nerve cells send signals (click here, if you want to see how it works). Yet, if our potassium levels get out of whack, that can cause some serious issues, including death.

Proverbs 30:8 is talking about money and provisions, I think that meaning can go a bit further. We should have a balanced life. A balanced diet is thrown around a lot, and there is a lot of merit in that. We need nutrients from all sorts of foods. The same is with our whole life, we need balance. Too much play is just as bad as too much work. Too much money is as bad as not enough. Too much food is just as dangerous as too little food. Too much family can be just as bad as never being around family.

We have to have balance in our lives. This allows us to focus on the good instead of what comes from excess or drought extremes. When we are in need of something, our mind is focused on getting it. When we are in excess of something our mind is focused on getting more or keeping it. When we’re in the middle, we have what we need to sustain, and can focus on our relationship with God.