A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.–Proverbs 15:1
Probably some of the hardest words to live by. When someone is angry towards us, we want to be just as angry towards them if not more harsh. Other times we get annoyed at people and we say something mean, which only leads to the other person getting angry and then a verbal fight follows.
Let your speech be alway with grace, seasoned with salt, that you may know how ye ought to answer every man –Colossians 4:6
The tongue is probably the most powerful weapon we have. We’ve heard the phrase that the tongue is mightier than the sword. Physical wounds we can heal from, but hurtful words may never be forgotten. I remember things that have been said to me when I was a little kid, that can still stir up anger, that still bring back the hurt that it did on the day they were said.
This is why we have to be very careful when we speak while angry. People comment on how quiet I get when I’m angry. I do that on purpose, because I’m mouthy and I have a tendency to say some really mean things when I’m mad. I rather not say anything and calm down so I can speak rationally.
When someone is angry or upset and we reply to them in a soft manner, we’re taking control of the situation. Many times the other person starts to calm down. I’ve seen this so many times at work. I’m in a management role, and my job type of work is high stress. I’ve seen countless people upset, mad, and frustrated and they’re yelling, but when replied to in a calm manner they start to calm down.
Honestly, this verse today made me cringe because it’s something I struggle with. It was a good reminder, to think before speaking and to be cautious about the tone used when speaking. Our tongue is representative of how in control we are of our emotions and thoughts. If we can control our tongue it allows us to control our emotions and thoughts.